Relationship goals are probably the most stressful ones.
Goals are what you set for yourself to achieve
Relationships are supposed to be between two people where love feels like home.
Love between two people is supposed to be stress-free.
Love is stress-free.
However, you then stumble into a relationship where it feels like your dating the editor of a magazine; a critic.
“you shouldn’t be like this”
“you should be doing this”
“you can’t be like that anymore”
And then you start to doubt yourself
Your self being.
The person who you truly are, is no longer there
because now you’re changing for love?
Love isn’t supposed to change your character,
love isn’t supposed to change who you are at all.
I was told that I’m way too emotional,
I was told that I’m hot headed,
I was told that I need to learn to be calm and cool, because cooler heads prevail and take courses.
You can’t change a person by their character.
You can change habits, not people.
I will always be emotional, I will always I’m impatient, I will always be hot headed.
But I have outlets.
Changing isn’t an outlet for character.
I will always love myself, flaws and all.
Until then I realized truly, the cold hard truth about love.
Someone may be perfect for you, but you may not be perfect for them.
In this case, I wasn’t perfect for him. But later, after judgement day, neither was he.